I can picture it so clearly in my mind:  It’s dark outside, early evening in December, the snow is lightly falling, and my Mom and I are walking ARM IN ARM to the special house that has the all the pretty Christmas lights.  And, I had that little flutter of excitement in my heart.  You know, that kind of hopefulness – that everything was going to be alright.  Because, in that moment, everything was.  

You see, that moment holds a special place in my heart.  It represents the connection I felt to my mom.  She loved Christmas… and I know she loved me.  I know this even though my mom made mistakes.

This time of year, of course, I am reminded of that memory.  My family and I always go to that house, that special house with all the pretty Christmas lights.  It is my way of honoring my mom’s memory.  And now that my son is older, I tell him about my mom.  I tell him about that memory.  He listens.  But, really, I know I am saying it for me.  I am saying it to remind MYSELF.  

You see, I have been thinking about that memory a LOT…to remind myself of what matters.

I have to remind myself of that when I think I need to BUY MORE STUFF to put under the tree.  I have to remind myself when I get stressed that the HOUSE IS A MESS.  I have to remind myself when my son gets a stomach virus and WE MISS OUT on a holiday event.

And I have to remind myself when I MAKE MISTAKES as a mom.  Because like my mom, and like all of the moms I have ever spoken with, I do make mistakes.

I don’t know which moments my son will remember.  

I only know what I remember.  I remember being together with my mom.  I remember feeling connected as we walked arm in arm.  I remember that moment as MAGICAL. 

I cannot create magical moments for my son.  I can only make time to be TOGETHER, and reach out to CONNECT with him.

And I have to keep reminding myself, over and over.  This is what MATTERS.  CONNECTION.  

And that is my wish for you, this holiday season.  I wish you moments of CONNECTION with your loved ones, moments where, even though things aren’t perfect, everything feels like it will be alright.  

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